Easy Ways To Focus On Achieving Your Business Goals
Every one of us has ways of pushing ourselves forward. Similarly, all of us have ways of self-sabotaging. All self-sabotaging and self-blocking behavior once had a function that was meant for protection – ways to make others like us, love us, appreciate or accept us. We use our cognitive schemata in order to achieve belonging, find our identity, or preserve our self-image. But the crucial thing we often forget about is the fact that these behaviors are holding us back. So, we continue to use self-blocking thinking patterns in new circumstances, thus preventing ourselves from taking action and distancing us from our goals.
The following are the most common thoughts which are holding us back:
Failure is a bad thing. Fearing failure can be a distraction from actually starting to work on something in order to fulfill our goals.
»» What I always tell my clients to do is to look at failure as feedback. This type of information is telling us that what we are currently doing isn’t giving us the results we want. Instead, we need to try something different.
Having high standards. You refrain from action because you can’t make something meet these high standards.
»» A good course of action is to define our minimum standards. This way, we can shift focus from trying to attain something that is difficult to achieve to getting started.
Wanting not only to achieve an ideal goal but to do it perfectly, under perfect circumstances.
»» A better alternative to perfectionism is gratitude. We need to accept who we are and have gratitude for it. Practicing self-acceptance and going forward with attaining our goal, even if everything isn’t perfect is a much better formula than beating ourselves up because we aren’t perfect.
Preconceived scenarios of how others should act, or how circumstances should be.
»» Forget about expectations. We should not be expecting people to act in certain ways in order for us to be successful. Similarly, we shouldn’t expect circumstances to happen in a certain way that would suit us. Instead, we need to focus on welcoming unexpected events and reactions and making the best of them in our journey to success.
Focusing on the final goal. Sometimes, we want something so bad that we focus on the end result, and then become impatient. Instead of putting our energy into the work and enjoying the process, we are torturing ourselves wondering why we aren’t where (we think) we should be.
»» We should focus on the activities that will help us attain our grand goal. This will minimize discontent, impatience, and tension which are sabotaging our work.
These thinking patterns often make us procrastinate, find excuses, jump from one opportunity to the other, stall in the research phase and doubt ourselves.
This list is not limited, humans are quite creative when it comes to self sabotaging habits.
Stopping our self-sabotaging thinking is not easy, but it’s not impossible. It requires courage and action, but you’ll see that the results are phenomenal.
If you recognized even one of the common thinking patterns that cause you to self-sabotage, or if this article has helped you pinpoint an exact cognitive pattern you employ, you’ve already made a huge step forward.
You can now start to unfurl these thinking patterns and blocks. The best way to do so is through communication, especially if the person sitting opposite of you is educated to hold a focused and goal-oriented conversation. Therefore, a coach makes for the perfect speaking companion.
Coaching is a method of guided, facilitated conversation in which the coach acts as a partner to the client in finding ways that will stop self-sabotaging behaviors, and help them launch themselves towards attaining their goals.
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